I am a little weird, I find myself to be shomer until relationship but even then I tend to only touch the girl I am with- I brought up all these theories.
My most commented post on ever was me describing all of the different shomer negiah categories people fall into.
I happen to think tefillin dates are great, it shows that even though the person is doing wrong in one area, they are doing well in the other.
It is a common thought in chasidus that the yetzer harah tries to convince you that its all lost- so those people wouldnt even bring their tefillin because the figure its all gone anyway.
The brush of fingers against skin could be such a small thing; it could mean Nothing. The brush of fingers against skin could be such a huge thing; it could mean Everything. After all, that’s how well-mannered children are raised. Do I tell him that I’m allergic to those of the opposite gender? “I was thinking about what you said, about sensitizing yourself to touch. Her down-to-earth pieces cover topics spanning from psychology to religion to the tiny details of life.
When a male sticks out his hand to shake yours, you look him in the eyes and extend your own. And When Rochel is not studying in panic or involved in a deep conversation with a stranger, she works as a freelance writer and photographer.
I’d gotten a book deal, gotten hardcore about this whole Orthodox thing, and hitched a ride with my best friend’s ex-girlfriend and her dog to New York City.
I know you are not a Rav, but I have a question: What do you think of one who stops being shomer negiya in order to eventually get married?
But in my case, the issue was with the lack thereof. I took on shomer because I wanted my first time holding hands, my first kiss, to be with someone worthy. Where, if I reach for a water bottle at the same time as another human being, I’m cognizant of the warmth of his hand.
Relationships are one of the most complicated of human endeavors.
Emotions, hormones, and social mores tend to be the prime influences on our behavior and often encourage us to live for the moment.
Let me also say that I think the idea of the tefillin date is a little weird, I mean who goes on a date and brings their tefillin.
I dont even bring my phone on dates, I think it really means to say that when you wake up in the morning and say oh shit I forgot my tefillin, thats a proof that you are doing well in other areas- just maybe not the sexual activity part.